What Does Neurodivergent Mean?

Neurodivergence is an umbrella concept describing ways of thinking, processing, learning or experiencing the world that differ from dominant neurotypical expectations.

It commonly includes autism and ADHD and can encompass other neurological or learning differences.

Importantly, being neurodivergent is not itself a mental illness.

However, living in environments designed primarily around neurotypical expectations can contribute to stress, anxiety, exhaustion, low self-esteem and burnout.

That context matters enormously in therapy.

Therapy Shouldn't Be About Making You "Normal"

Many neurodivergent adults have spent years receiving messages about what they should do differently.

Pay attention.
Stop fidgeting.
Be more organized.
Make eye contact.
Don't be so sensitive.
Try harder.

Over time, those messages can affect how someone sees themselves.

A neurodiversity-affirming therapist approaches things differently. Instead of automatically asking, "How do we stop this behaviour?" the conversation may become, "What need is underneath this experience, and how can we support it?"

That distinction can feel profound.

What About AuDHD?

Some people are both autistic and have ADHD, often informally described as AuDHD.

That intersection can create seemingly contradictory needs.

You might desperately want structure while finding it extremely difficult to maintain routines. You may need predictability while simultaneously craving novelty. You might experience both sensory seeking and sensory overload.

Rather than asking why you can't simply "be consistent," therapy can help you understand these competing needs and create systems with enough structure and flexibility to work for your brain.

Finding a Neurodivergent Therapist Who Fits

You are allowed to interview your therapist too.

How do you understand neurodiversity?
How do you adapt therapy for autistic or ADHD clients?
What is your approach to masking?
Can we change the structure of sessions if something isn't working for me?
How do you support executive functioning or sensory needs?

Do you feel understood?
Can you communicate naturally?
Are your experiences treated with curiosity rather than correction?

Fit matters.